Are You Jelly?

Do you ever feel jealous? I have to be honest...sometimes I do.

Yeah. Most of us have areas in our lives that we might feel a little too embarrassed to admit. But I made a promise to all of you that I would be transparent and real with you at all times. And I am here to tell you that I have had the green eyed monster read her ugly head in my life at times.

Jealously is something we all experience and it can actually make you feel pretty darn bad. Not to mention that it does wonders at keeping you unfocused. That is unless you have a new way of looking at this emotion.

What am I talking about? I'll tell you what I am talking about, my love. I'm talking about jealousy being a good thing.

{angry villagers...YIKES!}

Now I know some of you might think I have lost my mind, and that's okay but before you send the angry villagers to come burn down my house, hear me out. There are many good things that this emotion can bring. Jealousy and envy are perfect indicators of the areas where you are holding back in your business and/or life.  It points to the precise area where you need to take action or where you need to open your heart to move ahead.

But first let me say that feeling jealous and acting on your jealousy are two different things. When you are jealous and you say and think negative things, you are subconsciously sending yourself a message that success is a bad thing. It's true. Have you every heard of the Law of Attraction? You know the one that says, "like attracts like"? You are putting up a block to your own success by speaking and thinking negatively about anyone who has had more success than you. Especially if you are a driven and ambitious person and you want to have achievements beyond your current level of success.

Next time you find yourself saying or thinking:

"What makes her so great that she can say XYZ?"
"Hmph, he thinks he is so great but I can show you where he isn't."
"Why does she deserve to have success when I am just as good as her."

or other things like this, I want you to stop yourself dead in your tracks. How? By implementing these the three tips below:

1. Be supportive. Bless them. Cheer them on. You have a choice to either contribute to the negative energy in this world or be a positive force. And remember that like attracts like. So if you want to attract success and want supporters, you will have a greater chance of making it when you yourself are a supportive person.
2. Remember that jealous feelings bring good news. This is the Universe's way of showing you exactly what you need to do. Instead of bashing the next person, thank them because they are showing you what you need to emphatically pursue.
3. Stay in your lane. Don't start comparing yourself to others. This puts you in such a negative mind space and it can literally sap your drive and ambition. When you start comparing yourself to others, you are in some ways telling yourself that YOU SUCK. And I am certain that is not the message you want to give yourself. Stay focused on yourself. What are you grateful for? What's working for you? What can you take action on right now?

If you have comments or want to share your stories, feel free to do so below. I absolutely love hearing from all of you. 

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xoxo,